Stop Seeking Approval

One of the biggest obstacles to people improving their self esteem is their constant need for approval by others

They feel that unless someone tells them what a great job they did or how wonderful they are then they’re just not good enough. They don't believe in themselves so they need to find someone else who will.

The problem with this is that until you believe in yourself, it will never matter what someone else says because the most important person doesn't believe it, You.

You'll constantly look for more and more people to tell you that you're valuable. The search will continue until you find that one person who agrees with what you truly believe about yourself; that you're really a fraud or a failure. Then, it wouldn't matter if a million people said wonderful things about you, you would only remember the person that had spoken negative comments.

It's In You
The approval you really need to find is from yourself and this can only begin once you stop searching for approval in others and take the time to heal yourself.

Often even just the awareness of your actions will provide you with a great deal of healing. Be sure to take the time to explore your feelings and learn why and where it's coming from. Once you do that then you'll most likely find that you no longer need approval from others for that particular feeling.

Freedom
The moment when you suddenly realize that you don’t need anyone else’s approval is incredible. There is a sudden peace inside of you which will make you absolutely giddy with joy. It’s like you’ve suddenly woken up from a nightmare and you’re now free to just be you. Your whole life will be completely different. You may find that for the first time in your life, you understand what it means to feel "content" and "happy".

But, how do you get to the point where you can let go of needing approval from others? If it's something you've been doing your whole life, you may not even be aware that you're doing it.

How Do You Seek Approval From Others?
It starts with being aware of how you might be seeking approval from others. For example:

Are you hesitant to give your opinion on something until you know how others feel about it? When you make excuses do you do it to make yourself look better? Do you ask everyone else for their opinion before you’ll make a decision? Do you worry excessively about what to wear? Do you tune out what others are saying because you’re trying to think of what you’re going to say so that you appear knowledgeable or funny or clever? Do you find that you’re self conscious a lot and worry about what to say? Are you afraid to say "No" because of what people might think of you? Are you constantly trying to please people? Do you buy things so that people will think more highly of you? Do you do activities just to impress others? These are just some of the more common ways you may be searching for approval from others. READ MORE HERE